What is the meaning of Locus of control?
If you throw a rock in the calm water of a lake, it will stir in the storm. If you press your foot on the brake of a moving vehicle, it will stop. Throw the ball hard against the wall and it will come back just as hard. These are all forms of reaction. Man also wants to react to every action and thing.
And if we observe, we have two kinds of people
Locus of Control
They are inside and others whose LOC is outside.
Locus of Control
This means the point or cause of control. If there is any movement in a person's thinking and action, there is a reason for it. For example, if a person touches a hot pot on the stove, he immediately pulls it back.
The reason for the back of the hand is the hot pot that is outside.
In the same way, a person has nightmares. And be so frightened that they get up in a panic
And if he gets scared, then there is a reason for him to get up and get scared, and that reason is inside him, that is, the dream that he saw.
How to protect your Locus of Control from external factors?
Research has shown that people who have an outsourced Locus of Control, that is, external factors that influence their decisions and moods, have a life full of anxiety and restlessness.
For a prosperous and contented life, it is important for a person to base his Locus of Control on the inner things of vision, dreams, goals, and intentions.
And these factors control its Locus of Control, not the small issues and conflicts outside.
Usually, we don't know and we are being controlled from outside, which results in bad results.
How to protect your Locus of Control from external factors? It is important to take care of the following things.
* People's impressions, attitudes and words
Most of the time people are in the same dilemma as to what people are saying, how they are feeling.
To solve this problem, some rules have to be set which must be followed in any case.
Principle No. 1:
You cannot satisfy every human being and keep everyone happy. When a human being accepts this fact, then it is not difficult for him to run his life.
Principle 2:
You are responsible for your own life, not the people. Whether people succeed or not, they succeed and fail. I have seen doubtful futures for the children of all such households whose important decisions are being made by uncles, aunts, or anyone else. Education, profession and marriage are the three most important things in a person's life and he is free to make any choice in this matter.
Now the question is why do other people make such important human decisions? The answer is that when a person is weak then the people around the house start making decisions. If the father is weak then the uncle will become strong and then his decision has to be accepted. Because we become weak then Those who are strong start making our decisions through this weakness. Decide from today that you will make your own decisions.
Principle 3:
Never follow a path that your heart does not believe.
You are walking on the same path on which the voice came from the heart that yes it is right, then it is right but if you have doubts in your own heart about this path then don't make the mistake of adopting it. While here the opposite happens. People force us to follow the path that our heart is not following.
Principle 4:
Always ask yourself two questions.
(1) Do I really want to do this?
(2) Isn't it because of the fear of people in the work?
Make a list of these questions in your life and check regularly whether the work I am doing is not just because of the pressure of the people. If it is, then it means that you have done it. Your remote control is in the hands of others. Whenever a person starts giving importance to other opinions and things, then people also raise it.
The purpose of telling about the locus of control is that man should learn that
Learn to control yourself
That is, people should not control you, but you should control yourself. Today, make a list of all the people in your life whom you did not take seriously.
This is very important for a happy life, because there are some people in human life who just have to take a path and not take their words and comments seriously because the most changing thing in the world is people's opinion.
* Do not allow the situation:
We have to accept the fact that the circumstances of life cannot be denied.
Man has no control over what happens to him, but how to react to it is up to him.
We should not allow circumstances to decide what my mood will be.
Unless one practices this, one cannot learn.
Remember that the example of life is like a river. Just as big mountains come in the way of a river but it does not stop, but at every turn, it finds its way for itself. The mountains come, in this case, you have to change your path a little but you have to flow like a river, you don't have to stop.
The best example in history is of Socrates, when a man was cursing him in front of him
And Socrates was smiling in reply. One of his companions was sitting nearby. He asked Socrates, "Aren't you angry?" Socrates replied:
"I'm not what he's talking about."
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